“You must give everything to make your life as beautiful as the dreams that dance in your imagination.”- Roman Payne
We all have dreams. Even the smallest child has goals that they want to reach, no matter how abstract they may be.
I remember as a child wanting to be a teacher. I had no younger siblings, but was blessed with two nieces and a nephew that were only three and five years my junior. Needless to say they became my pupils and we spent countless hours playing “school”. I like to think that their scholastic success has something to do with the fact that I was teaching them their time tables and the difference between a noun and verb at age four.
Later in my teen years my career aspiration changed from teacher to lawyer. And with a bit more maturity I was able to secure myself an internship during my senior year of High School with the Department of Public Prosecutions work shadowing one of the islands top prosecutors. I assisted with filing and attended countless trials. I still remember a rape trail that I sat in on. I remember the graphic photographs and testimony of the victim. It shook me to my core and at the end of the internship I realized that law, while intriguing, was not my calling and I returned to my former dream of teaching.
From the point of graduation my pathway was clear. Undergraduate degree in History and Literature, followed by a Master’s degree and culminating in a Post-Graduate Certificate in Education. That was the plan and I left Bermuda focused on achieving it. But I never did.
Unfortunately somewhere along the way I became much less intentional about life and the goals I had for myself. As I got older and became exposed to the world and how big and amazing it is, I lost focus and became distracted by all the things that WERE NOT my goal. Relationships, travel, partying, material wealth…they all distracted me. Today, I’m learning for the first time as an adult how to be intentional about life again. How to know who I am and be intentional about loving that person. I’m learning what I really want out of life and how to focus on creating that for myself.
Wandering aimlessly is one way to do life. In fact it’s the way that I lived for many years. And it worked for me for quite some time. I traveled the world, got a degree, met tons of people and developed some awesome relationships. I have a lifetimes worth of amazing memories and experiences to recount as a result, however I also have a ton of regrets. Like the Master’s degree that I never finished. And the toxic relationships that left me broken and bruised. Or the children that I never planned. And the marriage that failed. All these things came as a result of me wondering.
And don’t get me wrong, I appreciate and value all of those experiences. I love my children and am so grateful to be their mother. However if I could rewrite my past, I would have done things a whole lot differently.
My wandering days are over and it’s now time for me to be deliberate with the decisions that I make. It’s time to accept responsibility for creating the kind of life that I say that I want. It’s time to be intentional. But how do I do that?
That’s the hard part. After allowing life to happen to me for so long, living intentionally is a major transition which takes a whole lot of focus and dedication. But I’m really excited to begin this next phase of my journey. Because what I’ve learned is that inaction is an action and as long as you sit and allow life to happen around you, you are giving away your power.
What I’m beginning to accept is that I have to be incredibly intentional about every single part of my life. Spiritually, emotionally, physically, mentally, financially…literally every single facet of who I am needs to be focused.
Life is meant to be lived. We are meant to spend our time on earth creating a life, not simply accepting the life that happens to us. That is not living, that is existing. We are not headless chickens; we are not meant to wander aimlessly.
But so many of us are doing just that. Wandering. Not sure where we are going from one day to the next. We may have a family, a career and stable life, but still lack vision and follow through.
I turn 30 this year. Yup the big 3-0! And I don’t want to enter another decade of this life wandering or wondering. I don’t want to begin this phase of my journey without truly knowing what I want to get out of it. I want to be intentional.
So I’ve decided to challenge myself. I’m going to endeavor to be intentional about EVERYTHING that I do. From the big decisions to the small decisions and all the other ones in between. I’m going to be thoughtful and intentional about creating a life beyond my wildest dreams.
Every one of us has a dream. We have an idea of what we want our lives to feel like. And we all deserve to have those dreams come true. We all deserve to have an amazing life. But only those who are willing to create it will actually have it. No one owes it to us and no one is going to give to us. It is something we have to work for. Intentionally.
What will you decide? Will you continue to wander through life or will you start living it? It’s your choice…and your consequences.
Do you want to join me on this journey to intentional living? If so, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information about joining the “A Little Girl Grows Up” accountability group. I look forward to hearing from you!
Be strong, be courageous, be GREAT!